Communication generally is important, but in the context of separating & divorcing families it’s even more important. It serves as the foundation of a good co-parenting relationship. It also shows the children that you and your co-parent are working together, as a united front. This is so critical to show your children, otherwise the children can and will start using the … [Read more...] about Effective Communication – A Must for Separated Parents
I’ve been using an innovative Workbook in both my legal & mediation practice called Our Family In Two Homes. Separation and Divorce can be overwhelming to many families - most people have never embarked on this process and don't know where to get started. There are 3 parts to the Workbook: Foundations of effective co-parenting – working on things like trust, communication, … [Read more...] about Our Family In Two Homes Workbook
People often ask why they need to come in for an initial consultation. They just have a question that will take “30 seconds” of my time to answer. I often hear frustration on the other end of the phone when they are advised that they need to come in for a consultation to have the answer. Well, it’s important that you understand the purpose of a consultation… as I see it. #1 – … [Read more...] about The Importance of an Initial Consultation
My favourite topic! Technology! I thought I’d take an opportunity to write about how technology can be used to help separated and divorced co-parents to be more effective. First, let’s talk about co-parenting apps! I love to test out the various apps that are out there. They’re a great way to compartmentalize your communication with your co-parent. There’s tons of different ones – … [Read more...] about Using Technology to Improve your Co-Parenting Relationship
I love to feature great books I’ve found to help parents to learn how to effectively transition into co-parenting from two homes. It really is a skill that’s acquired; just like learning to drive, it’s important to start out your new journey with creating an effective foundation of positive and effective skills. Here’s my favourites – they are all pictured below: Explaining divorce to … [Read more...] about My Favourite Divorce Books
Amid this COVID-19 world pandemic, separated and divorced parents are still coping with trying their best to co-parent. I would be interested to know – has this pandemic crated more cooperation between you as parents or escalated matters? Be Flexible We have kids who are needing to self-isolate in one parent’s home for any given reason, and that is impacting the other parent’s time. How … [Read more...] about Divorced Co-Parenting During COVID-19
There is lots of media attention on January being “International Divorce Month” and January 8th being “International Divorce Day”, but I prefer to bring to light a different term if we are to say that January is a popular month for initiating divorce proceedings – it’s called “International Child-Centred Divorce Month” and it focuses on the importance of focusing on what every parent feels is the … [Read more...] about January is “International Child-Centred Divorce Month”
We know that toxic stress and chronic conflict negatively impacts kids’ development. When you are separated and need to deal with facilitating a parenting schedule and exchanging kids, stress and conflict can occur especially at the point of the exchange. Here are some tips to reduce conflict during exchanges and improve kids’ experiences of transition times: Reduce the number of … [Read more...] about How do I improve transitions for kids between two homes?