Unmarried living together – very common these days! Planning for that cohabitation – less common, but probably one of the most important things you can do. Whether you end up married or not, the law in many jurisdictions provides that once you’ve been living together for a certain period, your division of assets & debts / spousal support obligations / entitlements on separation or death … [Read more...] about Planning for Living Together – Questions to Contemplate
Amid this COVID-19 world pandemic, separated and divorced parents are still coping with trying their best to co-parent. I would be interested to know – has this pandemic crated more cooperation between you as parents or escalated matters? Be Flexible We have kids who are needing to self-isolate in one parent’s home for any given reason, and that is impacting the other parent’s time. How … [Read more...] about Divorced Co-Parenting During COVID-19
Similar to the collaborative process which I introduced last month, mediation is a process which can also have tremendous positive effects on families going through separation and divorce. Family Mediation is a safe and neutral environment in which families can resolve their disputes. A neutral mediator facilitates the parties’ discussions, encouraging them to identify and explore their core … [Read more...] about I have heard about “mediation” for resolving family disputes – can you explain it?
People often ask why they need to come in for an initial consultation. They just have a question that will take “30 seconds” of my time to answer. I often hear frustration on the other end of the phone when they are advised that they need to come in for a consultation to have the answer. Well, it’s important that you understand the purpose of a consultation… as I see it. #1 – … [Read more...] about The importance of an initial consultation
We know that toxic stress and chronic conflict negatively impacts kids’ development. When you are separated and need to deal with facilitating a parenting schedule and exchanging kids, stress and conflict can occur especially at the point of the exchange. Here are some tips to reduce conflict during exchanges and improve kids’ experiences of transition times: Reduce the number of … [Read more...] about How do I improve transitions for kids between two homes?
Have you and your ex decided to use Mediation to resolve your post-separation issues? This process is designed to help you and your ex to work together rather than as adversaries from the very start of your negotiations. The following are some key questions you may want to ask yourself before the process begins: What are the 5 most important goals you would like to accomplish … [Read more...] about 5 Questions to Prepare for Divorce Mediation
The simple answer is yes… but maybe not in the way that you think. You must file court papers, and have a judge sign off to finalise your divorce. However, you are not required to fight everything out in court to settle your affairs. There are many options available to have your divorce issues resolved in private. Typically, you will need to resolve four issues: parenting … [Read more...] about Must I go to Court to Get a Divorce?
It is going to be difficult to tell your kids that their parents are divorcing. How you tell them, and how you help them deal with their emotions in the aftermath of breaking the news is very important to consider. Here are some tips on breaking the news: Show that you are unified – if you can keep the conflict at bay, sit down together with your kids to tell them about the news as a … [Read more...] about How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?