When life demands change, such as in the instance of divorce, would it not be best to manage the affairs with the least amount of conflict possible? In an already frightening stage of my life, the idea of court proceedings, and presenting our lives on a palette to a judge seemed to be pegging us against each other rather than working together toward a common goal. The Collaborative Process, however, provided an excellent opportunity to discuss the affairs surrounding our divorce and financial settlements in an environment that felt safe and open. Issues were brought forth in an organized manner and both parties were very involved in coming up with an effective solution, allowing everyone to come out of the meetings feeling in control and well represented.
The lawyers were effectively able to keep the forward momentum, and prevent emotionally sourced arguments from getting out of hand. As well, and perhaps most importantly, the well-being of our children was paramount to everyone during the Collaborative Process.
And now, as new and different situations arise with our growing children, such as post secondary education, we know that we are able to revisit the process, and effectively divert conflict as quickly as it arises.