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Interviews

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  • Healing Explained
  • Grief Explained
  • What is a Divorce Narrative
  • Helping Children Build Resilience
  • Dealing with 2nd Marriages

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Habit Transformation and Wellness

Coach Terra Dawn

Stephanie Dobson sits down with Coach Terra Dawn to explain the importance of habit change during your separation and divorce transition. Habit change isn’t easy, but the benefits can be extra-ordinary. We will learn more about how to get started on improving your health and wellness, with a specific focus on fitness and nutrition.

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Getting Help with the Emotions

Gary Direnfeld

Gary Direnfeld is with Stephanie Dobson to talk about the importance of seeking professional assistance to help you through the emotions that so often comes to the forefront during a separation or divorce. What value can a therapist / counsellor provide? How can it actually reduce your legal fees? Gary is a supporter of negotiation processes that keep families out of the courtroom – find out his perspective. View the interview to find out more!

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Your Confidence Journey

Michelle Charles Gustafson


Michele Charles Gustafson talks with Stephanie Dobson about the core principles from her newest book Show Up Confident released in 2020, which are the foundations that she teaches to all her clients as each one of them go through their own confidence journey. What does “finding yourself” mean and how does that relate to one’s own confidence journey? How do you create permanent resilience when going through a change and transition in your life such as separation and divorce? Are your beliefs holding you back or propelling you forward? Check out the interview for details!

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Healing Explained

Karen Millon


Karen Millon joins Stephanie Dobson to discuss the importance of healing and grieving after separation and divorce. Going to the pain points is what will bring permanent change for one’s future. Without this, the wounds will continue, and will stand in your way to true happiness after separation or divorce. Karen is the author of An Amazing Divorce and host of the Healin’ with Karen podcast where she brings attention to various modalities of healing. One modality we discuss in our episode is “EMDR”. Check out the interview for more!

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Grief Explained

Barbara Rubel

Barbara Rubel joins Stephanie Dobson to talk about a topic that is so difficult to discuss, yet so critically important in order to become healthy and thriving post-separation or divorce: grief and the grieving process. An expert on the topic, Barbara normalizes this subject and helps us to understand how grief works. Tune in to hear Barbara’s insights.

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What is a Divorce Narrative

Nanci Smith

What is a divorce narrative? Nanci Smith joins Stephanie Dobson to explain what this is and why it can be helpful for families to create such a narrative, when they want to be conscious about creating a positive and healthy future for the sake of their two-home family. Separating and divorcing families with children or without, and those engaged in an amicable cooperative process or even heated divorce court can benefit from creating and sticking to this narrative. Check out the full interview!

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Helping Children Build Resilience

Dr. Julie Verner

Dr. Julie Verner and Stephanie Dobson talk about ways to help children build resilience. It’s about parents learning how to be healthy in two homes. Part of this can be ensuring the children’s feelings aren’t bottled up! Julie’s book is a great way to get the conversation started with your kids! Check out the interview to get the whole scoop!

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Dealing with 2nd Marriages

Larry Waldman, PhD

Dr. Larry Waldman talks with Stephanie Dobson about the challenges that face 2nd and subsequent marriages, then focuses on helping separated spouses to determine when to re-partner, how to create a solid foundation on which to build that next relationship, and how to successfully integrate children into the next chapter of your life.

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The Stepfamily Handbook

Karen Bonnell

Author Karen Bonnell sits down with Stephanie Dobson and Amrit Malhotra to discuss this essential read for any parent who is considering dating after separation or divorce. This book isn’t just for those who are at the stage of introducing children to their new partner – it’s for all stages of the relationship – from dating to integrating children, moving in together, re-marriage, new baby, grey divorce where children are adults, and even how to handle a subsequent stepfamily divorce if that should occur. Get an inside look at the author’s perspective on what inspired her to co-author the book, to how she arrived at the final topics, and even find out her favourite part of the book. Enjoy!

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New Ways for Life – Instructor’s Guide

Susie Rayner

Susie Rayner and Stephanie Dobson discuss her book, co-authored by Bill Eddy, which is a youth guide to helping adolescents with their emotions and feelings as they grow and develop through these difficult years. We get into how New Ways for Life can help youth as they navigate their parents’ separation or divorce. Tune in to learn how this system can help your children to build resilience!

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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

Stephanie Dobson & Amrit Malhotra

Stephanie Dobson and Amrit Malhota discuss this book which helps spouses to get out of the Ambivalence Trap, getting off the fence of whether to stay in their relationship or whether to leave. The author applies a diagnostic, step-by-step analysis to give readers the opportunity to reflect on various elements of their relationship to make the decision regarding the fate of their relationship. The book is incredibly insightful, offering loads of strategies, examples, and reflections. Great book for any spouse who is on the fence as to their future.

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When Harry Left Sally

Stephanie Dobson & Amrit Malhotra

Join Amrit Malhotra and Stephanie Dobson as we discuss this book which focusses on helping separating and divorcing couples who are embarking on this journey later in life, when they are facing issues like Retirement and whose children may already be grown adults.

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Home Will Never Be The Same Again

Bruce Fredenburg & Carol Hughes, PhD

Co-Authors Dr. Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg sit down with Stephanie Dobson to discuss the issues impacting adult children of divorce, which is the basis of their new book “Home Will Never Be the Same Again”. Join us to learn how to help your adult children cope with your divorce, and why it’s important to turn your mind to them during this difficult life transition of divorce.

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  • Top 5 Divorce Myths Debunked
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  • Halloween with Divorced Parents
  • Making Decisions About Education for Separated or Divorced Families
  • Part 1 – Holiday Parenting – For Families Considering Separation or Divorce
  • Part 2 – Holidays – First Christmas Separated or Divorced
  • Part 3 – Holiday Parenting – For Long-Time Separated or Divorced Families
  • Part 4 – Holiday Parenting – For Blended Families
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FAQ

Discover the most common questions we hear about the separation or divorce journey and our Mediation or Collaborative Divorce process.

Divorce FAQs

What’s the difference between a Separation Agreement and a Divorce?

A Separation Agreement is a document which contains the agreements relating to your separation or divorce.  It contains things like custody, parenting scheduling, communication, child support, spousal support, property division, and other issues relating to your separation.  The divorce will be documents submitted to the Court which will cause you and your former spouse to be legally no longer spouses.  The divorce documentation will typically have to advise the Court as to your parenting arrangements.  It may simply reflect the terms of your Separation Agreement or it may be in lieu of a Separation Agreement.  Talk to your lawyer about which document may be most appropriate for your situation.

Do I have to wait a year after separation before starting my divorce?

Most people use “one year separation” as a way to establish the breakdown of their marriage to be eligible for a divorce.  To finalize your divorce most often you will need to establish that you have been separated for one year.  However, the negotiations surrounding the issues of your divorce can be started anytime.  Typically the sooner you start the negotiations the more likely you will be completed and ready to finalize your divorce at the one-year mark.

How do we calculate child support?

Child support is calculated using the Child Support Guidelines.  In essence, we take the income of the paying parent, the province of residence of the paying parent, and the number of children, and apply the formulas to calculate child support.  Go to the Child Support Calculator to figure out your child support.  There are additional considerations if you have a shared (50/50 or 60/40) or split (one or more child at each home) parenting arrangement or if children are over the age of majority.

(Lloydminster AB/SK question) If I live on one side of the border, does it matter if I move to the other side of the border after separation?

In order to apply for a divorce, either you or your spouse has to be resident in a province for one year.  If you move to the other side of the border and subsequently want a divorce, you either have to wait for you to have been resident there for one year or your former spouse has to have been residing in their province of residence for a year.

How much will a divorce cost?

The divorce paperwork itself is typically a flat fee.  However, the negotiations to determine the terms of the separation are typically the expensive and lengthy part of any divorce.  We operate on an hourly rate basis.  We can provide more information at your consultation once we have a better idea of your particular situation.

When can I change my name back to my maiden name after separation?

You can change to your maiden name at anytime – whether during your relationship, during your separation, or after your divorce.  Your legal name will always remain as your name on your birth certificate and you are entitled to use that name at anytime.

Can I make my spouse change their name back to their maiden name after separation?

No you cannot.  You are permitted to use your married surname while you are married as well as when you are separated or divorced.

Most extended health and dental insurance plans allow you to leave your spouse on your benefits so long as you are legally married.  You will have to consult your plan administrator to determine what is permitted.

Most extended health and dental insurance plans allow you to leave your spouse on your benefits so long as you are legally married.  You will have to consult your plan administrator to determine what is permitted.

What documentation do I need to provide during my divorce process?

When you work with us, we provide you with a checklist specifying the documentation that you need to provide.  We work with you to customize the date range, and we will help you to gather all of the documentation.

My divorce is simple – no kids, no property to divide, and no spousal support payable – how long will it take to process?

Before we can advise on how long it will take to process the divorce, we will need to assess your particular situation.  The actual paperwork itself typically takes 6-8 weeks from the date we submit the paperwork until the date that the divorce is issued.  However, the negotiations to determine the terms of the divorce can take a few months or longer.  We recommend that you start these negotiations as soon as possible so that you are not delayed in submitting the divorce at the one-year mark.

Mediation FAQs

What if I don’t trust the other party?

Trust between the parties is not required for the Family Mediation process to work. Rather than trust, it is more important that both parties are willing to come to the table to openly discuss all of the issues for resolution and to provide all of the information on which the parties will rely to make their decisions. If it is a matter of specifically distrusting the other party, there are ways to ensure that the information you are receiving in the Process is accurate and complete and that the agreements that you make are going to be followed by both parties into the future.

What if we don’t reach agreement in Mediation?

There are times where the Process breaks down. Sometimes, parties have come to Family Mediation after being in a litigation process. If Family Mediation ends without reaching full agreement on all issues, the parties simply return to their lawyers to reconvene the court process. Or, if litigation was not already started then lawyers may need to be hired at this point. As far as what to do with the agreements reached during Family Mediation, The parties have 2 choices: (1) to enter into agreement regarding the terms that continue to be agreeable by both parties, and the remaining issues can be dealt with by the Court, or (2) to abandon all discussions had and agreements reached during the Process and start afresh in a Court system. The initial consultation is extremely important in order to ascertain whether a Family Mediation is appropriate for your family. Your Family Mediator should learn about your situation and ensure that you understand the Process, then assist you to determine your suitability for the Process. This step helps to prevent you from entering into a Process that will not work for you, and may ultimately lead to impasse.

What if we have resolution on some things and don’t want to negotiate those things in Mediation?

What if we have resolution on some things and don’t want to negotiate those things in Mediation?

What if the other party will not agree to Mediation?

You have an opportunity to negotiate, and a right to litigate. T his means that you can only do  Mediation if both parties agree to enter into the Process. If the one party won’t agree, then you still have a right to resolution, but it will likely be in the litigation environment. The sooner that both parties learn about the various process options available for divorce, the better. Sometimes, parties will enter into the litigation ring without understanding that there are options such as Mediation. Even if the other party has chosen a litigation process, you can still talk to them (directly or through your lawyer) and provide them with information about Mediation; it can’t hurt. However, if the other party is not agreeable to at least a 10-minute phone call with Stephanie to learn more, then it is not possible to enter Mediation.

What if the other party already has a lawyer – can we still use Mediation?

Yes, even if one or both of you have already retained lawyers,  Mediation can still be used. You may invite your lawyers to attend each session with you, or you can request that your lawyer stays in the background while the mediation is proceeding. If one or both parties don’t have a lawyer yet, you don’t need to retain a lawyer prior to the mediation being conducted. Many parties choose to keep the meetings as 3-way meetings including the parties and the mediator alone and simply to discuss the final result with their lawyer at the end.

Collaborative Divorce FAQs

How is Collaborative Divorce different from the Court model?

Collaborative Divorce is client-directed and provides an open line of communication between the parties to assist to resolve all issues quickly and efficiently through 4-way meetings. In comparison, the litigation process can be lawyer-directed and most often all communication is channeled through the lawyers.

What if the other party won’t hire a Collaborative Divorce lawyer?

A Collaborative Divorce is only possible if both parties agree to use Collaborative Divorce lawyers and agree to this process. The sooner that both parties learn about the various process options available for divorce, the better. Sometimes, parties will enter into the litigation ring without understanding that there are options such as Collaborative Divorce or even Mediation. If the other party is not agreeable to retaining a Collaborative Divorce lawyer, then you cannot use the Process. In these instances, there are options to use a modified process which still can achieve similar outcomes.

General FAQs

How do I know if I should use Collaborative Divorce or Mediation? 

Parties who choose Collaborative Divorce usually want to have lawyer involvement in their process as they negotiate with the other party. The lawyer’s role in the Process is to be an advocate for their client, to ensure that their client’s interests are being met and that their voice is being heard. As well, in Collaborative Divorce the lawyers provide legal advice during each 4-way meeting based on the parties’ situation.

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