What Is Mediation?
Mediation is a family-focused decision-making process whereby parties work together with a neutral Mediator to find creative solutions to their marital issues, without Court.
What Is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce Mediation is Mediation for families who are separating or divorcing. In this process, the focus is on the future not the past, building agreements on every topic surrounding the untying of the relationship “knot” by working together with your former spouse rather than as adversaries. There is a commitment to providing all of the information necessary to make decisions.
In the end, the Mediator will draft either a Separation Agreement or a summary of the agreements reached during mediation. Lawyers may be involved in a consulting role during the mediation, they may come to the mediation sessions (at the family’s request), or they may be hired at the end of the process to review and sign the final agreement.
What Is Relationship / Marital Mediation?
Relationship or Marital Mediation is where families who wish to remain together need more definition around the terms of their relationship. It is for families who are unmarried living together, or those who are planning to marry, or those who are already married.
This type of Mediation is not therapy or counselling – it is intended for families to contractually agree to certain terms of their continued cohabitation. For example, families could negotiate how the finances will be run in the family, or how they will each contribute to parenting, creating an effective communicate plan, issues around assets and debt ownership, and other relationship-related topics.
Families may use lawyers or other professionals during the process such as lawyers, financial advisors, and others, as may be necessary.
Click here for a blog post on the types of topics you would want to consider in an agreement to continue to live together.
Will it Work For Me?
If you agree with the following statements, Mediation may be right for you:
- In the case of a separation or divorce: I want to avoid having the Court decide my future.
- My children’s needs are my priority, above my own needs.
- I want to focus on the future.
- I understand that conflict is detrimental to my children’s development, and therefore want to reduce conflict between the other party and me.
- I want a quick and efficient resolution.
- I want costs to stay as low as possible by involving as few professionals in the negotiation process as possible.
- With the support of the Mediator, I believe that I am able to make myself heard and understood.
If you think Mediation may be right for you but you’re not sure, contact us to book a free 10-minute phone call to learn more about the process and whether it’s a match for your family. Once Mediation is determined to be the right process, then we will schedule a full initial consultation for each party and the process will begin. We will always tailor the process for your needs, to maximize impact and minimize cost.
Virtual mediation is simple… it’s mediation by video-conferencing. Stephanie has been using video-conferencing technology for many years, and is able to assists families throughout Canada as effectively as in-person mediation. We use Zoom technology with the proper security features to assist families all across the country; any disclosure that is required is uploaded to our secure client portal at no charge to our clients. Stephanie has conducted virtual mediation for many years, and has found it to be just as effective as in-person sessions. Those essential non-verbal communication cues are able to be discerned just as well on video as in-person.
Not technologically inclined? No worries. All you need is your smart phone! A tablet, laptop, or any device with a webcam works too. No additional cost, and no login required. Just click on the link that will be provided to you, and voila… you’re all set!
But, what about the exchange of documents? It’s all done electronically. We provide free support to help you learn how to scan if needed – free and easy. When we are reviewing your documents in-session, Stephanie is able to screen-share with you so that we are all looking at the same thing. It works great for reviewing your net worth statement together and making edits on the go.
What about taking notes? No need! Stephanie uses software to take notes, and through screen-sharing, you will be able to follow along as notes are taken.